Things are better than ever!

[Jamesjohn]

quote: I can so vividly remember the pain I experienced and the roller coaster ride that went on and on and on. I remember wanting to detach from my H's drama and trying to develop strategies to have him notice the "changed me," but my detachment came only after I knew and practiced that I would be o.k. regardless of what happened with our marriage. I didn't shut him out of my life, but I didn't openly invite him along. There was no longer a compelling need on my part for OR conversations and I was relaxed on both the outside and the inside.

I again thank Michele and everyone here for helping me through my darkest days and helping me to find the strength to do what I needed to do to get my life back on track. "Getting my life back on track" was not a guarantee that my marriage would come back together, but it was a guarantee that I'd find myself again and pursue what it was that would bring happiness to me and my children. You know who you are and I love you and think of you often--Jamie[/B]

Jamie - Thank you, thank you, and thank you! These are the words I needed to hear right now. Sometimes I wonder if it's all worth it, but I think the attitude you have about the process proves that it IS worth it, no matter what the outcome may be.

I'm fairly new and haven't followed your story, but I want you to know how inspiring this post has been to me. I would wish you good luck in the future, but I don't think you need any luck, it sounds like you already have the skills to thrive. Thanks, again.