I have followed your story over the last couple of years as it is much like mine. I have not posted on this site in probably 6 months. Most of my history is in the infidleity section. I have heard the samethings that everyone has heard over the last two years i.e. not in love with you, we should move on, etc.
My wife has been involved in an EA with another man for 2 years. I am sure that it has become a PA over this time. He has recently divorced and is moving (he lived across the street and was a stay at home dad).
Last summer till late last fall was the bottom for us. We have begun to talk more and things are improving very very slowly. I have written her two very long letters letting her know how I have felt over the last two years. She talks of her mistakes and the need for time. I guess after two years of no sex, dating and everything else that couples do you reach a point of just getting tired.
The stories are all so much the same here you could almost throw them in a hat and pick one out. David2 I wish I could add something more to what you are going through. But I have really tried everything. I have distanced myself. I have been a great guy or Plan A'ed as Marriage Builders says. I listen better. I help her more. Everything she wants. Expect I am not sure she wants me.
David, like you I have asked her to go away and she is not willing to at this point. My biggest mistake is I probably have been too nice through this whole thing because I felt bad that I might not have been the best husband.
