I do not think you were being mean-spirited and perhaps assertive and aggressive were not the correct words to have used.
No problem.
Quote: P.S. What does "OT" stand for?
Oldtimer...and if you're lucky, you may find out what she stands for...lol.
No, she's just one of the better posters around here, known mainly for shooting VERY straight and telling it like it is ALL THE TIME. Her advice is usually a bit edgy but is almost always spot on. I credit her with a lot of my progress, especially in the more recent stages of my sitch. That said, she's not for the feint of heart...