LonleyInBed You are definitely not alone at all. To further reinforce what GEL was saying, you can’t tell your H what you want him to make you “feel”. You can only tell him very specific things that you want him to do. If you are trying to get through to him, my advice would be to keep your requests specific, relatively simple, direct, and limited to actions that cannot be misinterpreted.
Based on what you said in your post, it sounds like you have made all the right first steps by going to MC and by working on being your “best self”. Thus, when you say that he used to be willing at the drop of a hat, but now he barely wants intimacy once a month, that sounds very wrong to me too. Something has definitely changed. Now, the challenge is in figuring out what the trigger was, A, heath issue, emotional issue, etc. Any ideas?
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
