Great to hear from you guys again! I'm sorry for both of you that things didn't work out like you hoped but I'm sure you'll agree that its better to be alone than with someone who is going to continuously hurt you. Life is too short to be in a miserable relationship.
Goodman, I have suggested counseling and I was searching for an sbt therapists but I have been unable to locate one in the RI area. Besides, the last time I brought it up, she wasn't too receptive. I think she thinks we'll just wing it and see what happens but I have my doubts that this is the best way to handle things.
Rondo, yeah, maybe I did move back too soon, but we had done the dating thing and I think the only way to see if things were actually going to work was to jump in head first. For the most part, we are doing ok. There is not the constant tension between us that there was before I moved out last April and we do get along well. But I want more of a committment on her part. The fact that she still doesnt wear her rings makes me anxious. I ask her about it every so often and she says she's just not ready to do that. The only reason why she wouldn't that I can see is that she doesn't want to advertise that she is married and wants to keep her options open. Am I just being paranoid? I don't think so. If we are going to be married, then we should be married and be 100% committed to each other. But if this is just a test, how long will she be testing me and what do I have to do before she'll feel like she can commit to me again? She said that she is taking things one day at a time while I want things to be back the way they used to be right away. I think that I have been very patient over the past 2 yrs considering all that we've been through but IMHO, we are either married or we aren't. I will give her a little more time but at some point, I will demand her to make a commitment to our marriage and our future one way or another. Am I asking for too much??
