Dear Joanne, I don't post here very regularly either but need to tell you that you are an inspiration to me. I'm not much of a compartmentalizer. It frankly frightens me to even try to do this. But all the things that were happy, funny, pleasant, etc to me before are still meaningful to me in the same way. I laugh heartily and am more thankful than I've ever been in my life for all the precious moments this life brings, but the sadness is still there too.
Sometimes it seems like putting your foot down works and I hope it will in your case. Hope your H finds comfort at the same time as he genuinely makes these changes.
We've had a good couple of days and I've learned to cherish when that happens. Hope to figure out what makes the difference and keep it up. My H has been following up on some promises, not whole heartedly, imho, but definitely trying out new behaviors that are helpful so I tell him how he's healing us everytime I see he's trying. This kind of action on his part really does bring out my love for him. Hopefully, they'll get it that following up makes life much better for everyone. ALTL
