Jo, Sorry to bust in here. I cruise here every now and then thinkin I should move here as I to am caught up in the struggle of keeping a PMA grip while trying to work with W to pull our M out of a hole.
It's still a roller coaster ride. The difference is it tends to head slightly uphill on average. We all communicate differently. We all have different emotional needs. I think the trick is to find a happy median with our spouse that continues to allow positive progress.
I am taking W to Micheles seminar in February. I can't force her to meet my communication or emotional needs. All I can do is lay the tools in front of her face. I find that at certain times I manage to push a good button in her that makes her reach out a little. I often feel like I am trying to learn a foreign language. Trying to decipher the signals. I know one day that I will break the code. I just don't know when.
I am grateful to have reached the point where W says she loves me and wants to work on our R. Now we need to lay the groundwork for how we can accomplish this .
I posted in newcomers that I learned a lesson recently about not allowing myself to become overwelmed. I am in the process of installing some safety vents in me for the next time this feeling moves in for a sneak attack.
Sounds like I should mail you some of these safety vents as well.
Kent
[This message has been edited by KentSt (edited 01-06-2001).]
