Just posted about this on my own thread. I think Lil is right here. Why such a distinction between "love" and "in love". Most S's will admit to loving their S. True romantics like to use the term "in love" to somehow prove that the R?M is better than other R/M's. I've asked many of my girlfriend's this question and almost everyone of them laughed at the term "in love". These are practical women, obviously. Also all on first M's and while they admit to common M struggles, they all report to be quite happy with their M. I think I needed to take a note from their book because I was always looking at my M through "romantic" eyes. That I should have this wonderful, passionate M that you see in movies and read about in books. True love is not like that GoodGuy. True love is about working your azz off every day to make the M thrive. My guess is that those people who constantly seek the "in love" R are more likely to have A's and also get D. Romantic love is NOT a solid basis for a long-term M. I like it as much as the next person, don't get me wrong, but I don't think I should be basing my M on these romantic notions.
LFL - Doesn't need to be "in love." Just wants some hot sex dammit!
