I have not been on this site in a long time. I guess I kindof lost hope. I did post an update recently on the I need support forum.
Let me update so you can get the picture. H was in affair since jan (that I can trace, could be longer), left in july. I went thru the whole gammet of what everyone here says not to do, you know the questions, the in your face, I want answers, ect..... I know this drove h away but did not stop because I was hurt, angry ect. I have been thru the emotional roller coaster and back again. It was not until I truly let go that things started to get better for me. I learned alot in these past few months and have gotten on with my life.
fast forward to this week Tues. H called and said he wanted to come home. This after he always swore to me that he did not love, want, need, ect me. And he wanted a divorce. I always fought the big d, told h I never wanted to divorce him, never wanted to leave. Now he wants to come home. Actually we moved all his stuff back from his apt. on Friday. So he is back at home. The first night home, he slept in our d's room (she was at a friends house that night.) I told h that if he did not want to sleep in our room, our being back together was not going to work. We need to be together and need to work things out. He told me that he was used to sleeping by himself and that this is going to take time. I am not talking about sex, just the closeness, the togetherness. I know things will take time, but if he was not ready for this why come home???????
I guess I have alot of questions, as to is this normal, should I expect him to share our bed this soon. I do not want things to be like they were before he left.
he did apologize to me for the affair and did say that it is over, otherwise he would not have come back.... Here I am again trusting his words......
I know this will be hard and I do want my marraige to work. I need others who have been thru this to help
