Thanks for your reply. I don't know if you saw my posts on Jamie's thread, but my H has been back for about a month and a half now. This time it feels a lot different than the 6 weeks he was back in the fall. It feels like he's here to stay. He seems much more emotionally stable, not having the anxiety attacks he was having over XOW in the fall, etc.
We still have not had any OR talk, so it's difficult for me to really know where he is at. I am trying to just accept his actions as speaking for him at the moment--and he's done some things like disconnect the phone and cable at his house, as well as move all his personal belongings, knick-knacks, etc. to my/our home, which suggest that he really doesn't plan on going back there. But how committed to our relationship is he? Well, that's anyone's guess.
While things aren't always smooth, it isn't quite like walking on eggshells these days, either. We can disagree about things without them affecting our relationship, and are able to help one another through bad days. Our physical relationship has also improved. Generally, I'd have to say things seem headed in the right direction.
It's too early for me to consider us a "success story," and to be honest, I do want a better relationship than we've ever had to truly consider us successful. But I think we are finding, to answer my own question, that love can come back. And even if we don't make, I think I am a stronger, happier person than I was, and I know I can make it on my own.
This board has been a lifesaver for me, and I wish everyone on it all the best in the world! Happy Easter, everyone!
