Hi Deb, it sounded like what you had been doing was slowly working with your H. I'd suggest not doing anything differently for a bit. I know the tendency to want to have a quicker, more pronounced impact on things, but resist it and keep your positive mental attitude, especially in his presence. My H and I were separated for over 21 months and the roller coaster ride was so difficult at times.
Keep doing what is providing the baby steps you described in earlier posts. Your H's expressed willingness to date you is significant--don't push now or pull away. He could possible view the former as you being overbearing and the latter as you changing your mind re. him. Note, doing what you've been doing does not mean waiting for him to do anything dramatic, it just means remaining open to all of the possibilities.
