Long time reader, first time poster... H & I have been separated for the better part of 15 months (though married now nearly 22 years). There has been an OW involved since before he moved out, though currently he says she is finished w/him. He's been a classic case of the flip-flopper in the time we've been separated, seeing both of us, breaking up w/her whenever I told him I wouldn't see him anymore, etc. He finally moved back home in late Sept., and things were difficult but he seemed to be making progress in "getting her out of his heart," when after his counseling session last week, he abruptly moved out and filed for divorce. He says he loves me (I'm his best friend) but doesn't have any romantic feelings or passion for me, and doesn't think he can get that back. Anyone have any advice on this? Once those feelings are gone, are they gone forever? Or is he just experiencing one h***uva midlife crisis? I've seen less of him since he filed than in the previous 15 months, though have talked to him daily. He's said the filing was a mistake, but then, he's contradicted his own words a million times in the past year, so I'm trying not to take stock in anything he says these days. Should I break off all contact with him, so he can see what it feels like to really have me out of his life? Any advice welcome! Deb
