Thank you all. Yes, in some ways W has gotten help for herself. She recently quit her full time job and has taken on a part time on-call job where she can turn it down when she gets called and they try someone else. This is her first week of this. I have noticed she is less depressed and freindlier towards me this week. She is also on some meds. As far as personal counseling, no - but she is hoping that by working less she can use that time to begin working on herself. This has temporarily been hampered a little though. My parents lost their home to fire 2 weeks ago and lost everything. They are staying with us for now. My W has been very helpfull through all of this and it was mostly her idea. They are getting a place in a couple of weeks.
alottolearn - the affair my W had was intense - these were her words. I would say she has only gotten to a strong point recently where she is no so depressed over him - about 2 monthes now. I realize she will never forget as neither will I. However, does it continue to get better? Sometimes I wonder about the insecure feelings of mine. We are continueing to improve - I can sense that I think. I do wish to improve our talks and communication. You say he doesn't miss her now (after 16 monthes). I guess I'm wondering how long was it for the 'missing' to wear off. My W does still miss OM at times and gets depressed. Did you go through this? We are in the 3 1/2 monthes stage. Any input on the road ahead? Also, do you discuss the OW much or the affair. Sometimes I wonder about the road ahead - but don't we all.
Hey, step by step. Good to hear from you, it's been a while. You were a big inspiration to me. I gotta go for now.
[This message has been edited by Nathan (edited 10-27-2000).]
