(although this is addressed to Johnswife, I welcome any advice)
JW, It's so good to hear how well you are doing. I've been reading your posts for a long time. I changed my UserName because I was concerned I might be recognized. I've been coming here since March '99. Drifting apart, affair, DB, discovery, DB, Retrouvaille--that's our story. We are on good ground, going to renew vows in a few months. He's here to stay. But the old wounds are opening up--we're returning to teh location of his affair, and I'm losing my mind. He's impatient with my pain--I really think he wishes it would all just go away; I think he feels so guilty about it he deosn't even want to think about it. But all I want is his understanding, I want him to acknowledge my pain and fear and help me feel better. Am I asking too much? My stomach is in knots, I fear our trip will be a disaster if we don't work something out before then.
