Chelsea it is so good to hear from you. I was scanning the site here a few days ago and saw your posting under "surviving the big D". I can't tell you how my heart breaks for those of you who are my friends and still struggling through this most difficult and painfull time.
I wish there was some magic cure I could give you. Actually what I really wish is that you would meet some wonderful guy who would be thrilled to have the chance to show you how much you should be loved and cherished.
From what I have read unless something has changed your H becomes most interested in you after you have backed away and then when he is confident you will still take him back he splits again. Have you at any point cut him out of your life for a time and how did he react? Maybe the time will come when you will start to have a life of your own and won't be so willing to let him back. Maybe he needs this cutting of the apron strings to grow up. It might be a good thing if he has to work hard to get you back.
No matter what you decide to do please know that you are a wonderful person who knows what is important in life. Be good to yourself Chelsea. Put yourself first for awhile and your boys. They will be fine with a mom like you and you will be able to teach them what it takes to be a real man so that your future daughters-in-law and grandchildren will have happier lives.
