Thanks IHJ. That is what I was thinking as well. I think it wouldn't hurt to lower my expectations a smidge, but I also want some sexiness in bed too (from both of us). The whole setting screamed NOT SEXY so why pick then to initiate?? But like you said, he probably felt "safe" then and was comfortable enough to initiate. Points for him for the initiation and the discussion afterwards. But, we are still in "no sex" mode as of right now. And is doesn't help that I am coming down with a cold and about to start pms-ing to boot. Can just about guarantee no sex for at least another week. Better get my chocolate stash ready
