I think your H picked that time to initiate because he didn't feel any pressure from you. He knew you were in the " getting ready for bed" mode and not in sexy mode. The problem is, of course, that you want to feel you can be sexy, and you want some sexy initiations...and I don't see how that is " over the top." Your H gets points for trying to initiate and for having an open, honest discussion with you...sometimes it's just hard to get back into the groove after a gap of time.
My advice is to lower your expectations, but don't set them too low. You aren't being unreasonable for wanting a shred of sexiness in bed.
