LFL... I am happy your H initiated that talk with you and you are rebuilding the EC. I have to say I can relate to your sexual desires ( which for you have been stirred up by OM...who really wasn't an OM...and for me, my fantasy books and such). Making the reality of marriage work is so much harder, but hopefully ( and this is my hope) the intimacy with my H will be more fulfilling when there is more honest discussion.
As far as wishing our H's to be more aggressive, my H has told me that he just can't be that person with me, his wife...that it doesn't feel right for him. I appreciate the honesty and now I have to have the maturity to make some adjustments. My father once told me " you can't have it all" and those words haunt me sometimes...but he is a wise man and I get it now. I know you are working hard to figure all this out, as am I. Guess we'll have to keep passing each other the chocolate.
