Hi IHJ do we nudge our spouses along when they are regressing or do we wait for them to pull it together and make the effort? I have heard conflicting advice on the BB...don't jump in and rescue, versus, don't wait for things to really fall apart---jump in. My advice to you falls somehwere in the middle...instead of doing nothing or jumping in, you might want to take a little step to get things on track. I wouldn't say things are "off the track", but like I said in the last post, unless I blatantly do something sexual, my H will read it as simply affection. Why can't he be the one to step up to the plate? He's the man. He KNOWS I want him to do this and yet, still, something prevents him from maying the effort. I'm going this week in non-initiating mode and will re-evaluate on Sunday.
