LFL, I am convinced that the best partner is the one who is most willing to make efforts to improve the marriage ( thanks, Lil, for this insight). It really doesn't matter what the issues are. We are all on this board because our partners are not willing to truly make the effort. Your H reverts back to avoidance and non sexuality...the question becomes...do we nudge our spouses along when they are regressing or do we wait for them to pull it together and make the effort? I have heard conflicting advice on the BB...don't jump in and rescue, versus, don't wait for things to really fall apart---jump in. My advice to you falls somehwere in the middle...instead of doing nothing or jumping in, you might want to take a little step to get things on track.
