Just remember, the only one who can honestly decide if you fcuked your life up is YOU. That's Exactly right! And thus, I tend to over-analyze every decision, every incident, wondering what I am doing wrong, what should I change, what is in my control....on and on. I feel that responsibility very deeply and it is a double-edged sword. If I'm not pro-active, will I regret that. If I keep the status quo of the M, will I be just as unfulfilled in 20 years? I don't want to imagine that but how can I not. I know, stop projecting into the future. But come on, if you keep doing the same things, perpetuating the same cycle, there is no reason to think it Will be different in 20 years. So what does one do? I agree with you that having a positive attitude is helpful "beat this life challenge" like you stated, but it does NOT mean the other person feels the same. You can only do so much as in individual when you are dealing with Relationships.
