Hi Karen I think a lot of the HD W's on this board can relate to those feelings.
The hardest part is knowing in your heart that it would be different with a different partner. Then I remind myself that there would probably be some other gridlock issue like money or childrearing practices.
Yes, it would be Very different with a different partner. But like you said, there would be other issues to deal with. Still, having a mutually fulfilling SL and EC with someone seems like a much more meaningful experience in life than dealing with money and stuff. Is it worth the trade off? Would a person choose a lifetime of relative stability but unhappiness with their partner, or risk stability and find a passionate, meaningful SL/EC with someone else? I think lots of people will choose the latter, thus why we hear so many people discussing leaving when the kids are 18+. I can't even think about that because that's another 14 years for me.
