LFL, you are very astute and have drilled right into the heart of some of the complexities here. I would not mind chatting about it. However, I am afraid that the general populace would probably not understand the perspective. Furthermore, I doubt I would get a whole of feedback that would help my already bruised confidence right now. So, yea, I am dodging. Thank you very much for your perspective though. I will give your points serious consideration.

By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates