"I've been trying to figure you out and from your posts, you often come off very assertive, sometimes guarded (I think of that as typical Alpha), and then other times you seem so vulnerable in your posts, quite nurturing. So which is it?"

LOL…see, the most beautiful thing about the internet is that you can present your best side and sweep all the things you would rather have ignored under the carpet. To answer your question, I was much more the guy that I want to be when I first met my W. Though, after years of this SSM situation, I don’t like who I have become at all. Thus, I am now working really hard to restore my personality back to a healthy state.

The end state I am working to restore is a balanced mix of Alpha and Beta. On one hand I don’t back down from anything. I don’t care what the odds are, if principals are at stake, I will fight. For example, when my SF beat my mom, I would jump in and fight until he either knocked me out, I broke something, or he quit. (This is part of why Cobra’s personality assessment was so off the mark). Also, from an alpha love perspective, I am very confident as long as mutual attraction is present. For example, yes, I have seduced my W, hoisted her off the ground, and taken her in a door way. On the flip side, the beta side needs heavy romance and passion. I have to receive validation from my partner that the fire still burns. I guess the alpha would not care. Also, unlike the alpha, my partner has to be an equal and we both should prioritize nurturing. Oh, and don’t forget Lusty that I share a lot of physical traits in common with my pseudonym. Thus, physically, I have a lot of challenges to overcome into order for the alpha personality to even be noticed. I don’t mean this description to sound self effacing, just honest.

Alright, so with the personality profile now out in the open, do you have any suggestions as to how the alpha would approach the day-to-day throw down? Also, what would appropriate responses be when rejected? I would appreciate any thoughts.

By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates