PJ, I appreciate your honesty, especially considering that many of theposters on this bb are on the receiving end of this situ. As for the addiction to your OM, is it possible that the reason you are addicted is because he won't leave his wife, and therefore your fantasy has the perfect fulfilment? By that I mean that there is no commitment involved with a man who won't leave his wife, therefore it will always be in a perfect fantasy world, to a certain extent. The other side of the addiction is to try and conquer something that refuses to give up everything for you, ie the wife. My h is/was having an EA with a woman for almost three years. I really believe it was never a PA, (maybe I'm foolish for believing so) she's married and won't leave her h, but because he could never have her in any real sense, it leaves room to create a perfect world scenario, where one never has to commit. Perhaps your h is making himself too available to you, and by doing so, you lose interest in him. Just a thought, and I may be way off base. Thank you for posting, and please keep doing so. Please don't be put off by any of our responses, as they are sometimes wrapped in our own hurts. The board is for all of us to learn and to share.
