I did not search for a younger more attractive man. OM is only 4 years younger than H, which makes him 14 years older than I. OM is active! Yes, I am more physically attracted to OM than H but that is nothing new. I have always been a big flirt. It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home. For 10 years I ate at home except for a one night stand that H is aware of in '94. (Note H admits to the same in '93.)
I gather that you agree with H in that I am shallow. May I suggest Dr. Harley's book? Each of us has different needs. Why is it acceptable for a man to complain that his W put on weight after being married but if a woman complains that she wants a firmer man she is shallow?
Although this is not related to Rondo's response I should also point out that H is an affair from my first marriage. What goes around comes around I guess. We both have skeletons in our closets. This is H's third marriage and my second. H states that he wants to save our marriage but yet I'm the one reading the books, making the appointments, and having to decide if I can go back knowing what to expect. When H asked me to come home I told him yes but it would be for all the wrong reasons. I'm still not sure if I've changed my mind.
