I'm sorry Jane, But this seeming need for a younger more atrractive mate really raises red flags. Where will you be when your 60 say? Still searching for that young man that makes you look good and feel good? Or would you rather have someone that excepted your flaws and you and wanted to take care of you when your an old lady? I see that as a problem with my W. We all want to live the here and now. Get waht you can while you can get it. Everyone seems to forget that time wins in the end. Its the people you have left at the end, the people who stuck with you no matter what you did. Those are the people that you thank when they bring you soup and your not feeling well. Think of your life and where you want to be. My W's having an affair right now and I am neither old, out of shape or ugly. I was a very difficult person for awhile but I have changed and my W still means a great deal to me. often I have to stand outside of myself and look at the big picture with kids and stuff. People change all the time. Don't short change yourself or anybody else.. Good luck..Rondo
