I too am one who contacted OW and her H. First call to OW H was, "keep your W away from my H", and then I hung up. Next call was to OW that I knew of the EA and that I was the one who was going to win and triumph over what had been done to my marriage. Hers ended in D, my continues,17yrs strong. She's on her second marriage due to PA with this man. He knows of her EA w/my H. They all worked together. Go figure? I've been down this same road as you and had the as feelings and talks with God. May God bless you durning this ever ending healing.
