akf.....baggage is a tough one....meditation helps me.....when I can get intouch with what is mine I can own it...and be less critical of the other person involved...then I can focus on changing me and not so much worry about changing her....trusting that by my changing I will see things differently...and not so much need to be right or wrong or find fault or judgement..I realize I can only change me and as I do begin to change and feel better about myself I see how I can relate better to the relationship...obviously this is not a certainty we will get back together...hopefully though the improvement I put into myself will make me better able to deal with what is rather than what might be. If someone would have told me a month ago I would be going to the gym...I would have said you are crazy....for some reason I was always terrified of going to a place like that ..self conscious because I don't know nothing about any of it....so that was a big step just showing up to try something new to improve myself.. Keep the faith and hang in there akf.. Joe
