Well, I seem to have gone through a whole new learning experience and for that I thank you. The whole process of DB never stops amazing me. Why? Because of it's simplicity. As human beings we are in so many ways a complicated mix of feelings, intelligence, education, problems etc. Our daily lives are filled with all the things that make 'life' and it sems that our nature is to complicate matters, most epescially in relationships.
I am continually surprised at your ability to direct us to simplify things down to the absolute basics. It makes us think so differently and turns our complicated and turbulant thinking and feeling into a calm and thoughtful process. Most of all, it makes us surprise ourselves as we find the ability to loosen up our clogged up brains and see more clearly. Moreover, going through this process actually forces you to detach the emotions and be objective and quantifiable about what you want and need.
After your last post, I made the decision to let my H read this topic and see what has gone on here from start to finish. Partly because I don't like hiding things from him and if I want him to be open and honest, I believe I should be too in all areas. The other part was to let him see the process too in the hope that he might learn something about it. He also saw that I am still working very hard on both myself and the relationship.
He has asked me to say a big thank you from both of us for your caring, your assistance and the valuable time you have given here to hopefully help not only us, but others too.
I know we have a long way to go, but in the meantime, things are pretty good. He even scheduled an OR talk, so that's a move in the right direction. Patience is always hard but I'm learning not to have huge or fast expectations but to slow down and really see what is going on and appreciate the small steps.
I reckon we are pretty much finished with this for now. I know you have a really busy schedule this month and just can't thank you enough for taking the time out to do this.
It's interesting that nobody appears to have commented on any of this but I sincerely hope that it has been of use to others as it has certainly been to me.
