I used to be in all your shoes too (at this wayyyy too long). The first year that he was gone I hated the weekends - I had 2 small children 2 & 5 to take care of so I packed them up every weekend I could and we went camping - just to keep us busy and help the time pass and keep my mind off what I didn't have anymore. (we haven't camped since - I think we burned ourselves out!).
A good idea is to make yoursleves a schedule for the weekend - from 8 to 8 and fill the blocks of time with stuff to keep you going - planting flowers, yard work, grocery shopping, cleaning, a movie, volunteering for something, visiting a friend, doing something with the kids It really does help - kept my sanity!
