Michele, just a quick reply for now because it's evening here and 'together time' for us. I will give you a more thorough answer tomorrow when I have time to print your reply out and really read it.
First, I see and hear where you are pointing me and will gladly move closer in that direction, or at least try my best. Secondly, my mind is pretty much wide open so I don't get agitated or disagree with anything you are saying.
Thirdly, the 5 days apart seem to have done us the world of good. We needed a break from the intensity of things. We are both much more relaxed with one another at the moment.
Lastly,in spite of my own situation, I am still working with other people. Yesterday a close friend with a crisis in her relationship. I've focused my DB techniques to her situation, talked all day yesterday, and have turned her from a "ready to crack up" person into someone who is at peace today. She, like others, has told me I have a gift and should use it professionally. It's good because it also helps me sort out my perspective but also leaves me wishing I was as good at doing it properly in my own marriage. Still, I'm feeling pretty good and pretty positive again and ready to really dig in to all that you suggest.
