Quote: I don't love her the way I used to. Even before this all happened. I think that I felt this way for a long time. Yes I love the mother of my children, but it is not the kind of love to sustain a marraige any longer.
I have to admit that I felt this way for months before my d-day. I came >this< close to giving my W the ILYBINILWY speech, and had given thought to divorce (although not much). I was frustrated and upset with her for devoting so much time and energy to her R with OM (even though I didn't know it was an A, at the time). D-day was a slap-in-the-face wake up call for me. It made me realize how much I really do want this marriage to work - and, yes, part of it is because of the kids. Right now, I can say the same thing: I don't love her the way I used to. And I won't for quite a long time, to come. But, I have faith that we'll eventually be able to build up a foundation of trust and respect such that I can find that love in my heart again - it's there somewhere, buried deep inside.
Not the same as your sitch, but hopefully another perspective to take into consideration.
