Man, I don't really know what to say. I would love to say I thought it was ok, but I don't. That said, I think you have to find a way to get past this and NOT LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN until you are ready to have your marriage be over.
So, I guess for now, I would keep this to yourself. The best thing I can say is that you need to realize, RIGHT NOW that you are fully in control of your life and this did not "just happen" to you. You made this decision and you can just as easily make other decisions...start doing that.
BTW, what "things" did you do? Things that would constitute a "PA" if it were your W?
Again, I am sorry. I really wish you didn't do this, mainly because of the pain I think it is causing YOU, something you don't need more of right now. Please, in the future, like I said, realize that no matter how lonely and "vulnerable" you feel, you are always able to make a choice that reflects your long-term goals, not your short-term feelings.
