Quote: Do you ever think that it is even possible for my W and reconcile?
Yes.
Quote: She has told her parents that she is really trying to work on the marraige yet she is not doing anything but ignoring me. It is real obviouse that she is not doing a darn thing.
Don't fall into this trap. Just because YOU can see her doing anything does NOT mean she isn't doing a "damn" thing. I just posted this to someone else (and really should take my own advice, lol) but what constitutes trying for your W may not look like anything to you. Trying to her may be a WHOLE lot more about exploring feelings than dating, talking to you, or being physical with you. I seriously doubt you noticed her "trying" to leave you, what makes you think you will notice any more when she is "trying" to come back, especially when she doesn't live with you.
She may be sneaking around or whatever but you can't be concerned with that. Stop worrying about what you can't control and start worrying about what you can.
Oh, and just because she "pursued" OM does NOT mean she's going to pursue YOU, especially when you are so busy pursuing HER.
