Thanks dee. It's pretty generic DB stuff really but it's the core of DB that is SO hard to adhere to sometimes. The idea that we have to sacrifice our "right" to be miserable in order to embark on the less traveled path towards self fulfillment, is a really tough pill to swallow. It just feels so RIGHT to be miserable and hate her, the world, God, whatever. It feels SO wrong to love the world, her and especially OURSELVES right now but it's what it takes to move forward through this.
There is an idea, I think in the Four Agreements, that suggests that truly aware people never just "get through", or endure a day or experience because to "get through" something is to deny the positive power of change contained in every moment, every day and every experience. To "get through" something you are already saying that it has NO value to you and thus it's something to be suffered long enough to get to the next thing. According to the philosophy, the better thing to do is to accept the reality of a situation and learn from it what you can instead of denying it. Denying an experience makes that part of your life spent doing it totally useless.
Of course, I read the book some time ago and paraphrased quite a bit but I think I got the essence. That idea is why I try to never say "well, I got through that day ok..." or "How do I get through this situation?" It's just a mindset that I think can help you learn from EVERY situation, not just the really good or important ones.
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P.S. Wow, haven't done THAT for awhile...off the soapbox now...
