Here is my sitch. All advice welcome

[doug01]

If you want to stand for your marriage, this is the place to be. You will get a lot of support on the days you feel like giving up...and trust me, there will be a lot of them. The best thing you will take from this is not to overreact to anything, but you will still do that at times.

That's the right thing to tell the D5, you both love them very much. You may even want to consider counselling one of these days. You haven't seen it yet, but she is old enough to realize she has no control over schedules, phone calls, etc...she will most likely act out.

Being alone is very hard at first. It's an uncomfortable / unwanted freedom. I can't explain it, but you will feel it soon. If you don't have any, you need to find some hobbies.

Losing your mind, that's a hard one. Medication can help take the edge off. I prefer to stay away from med's. Maybe someone else can help you here.