Here is my sitch. All advice welcome

[MonicaP]

Hi Hanging On -
I can sure relate to your sitch and I'm sorry that you're going through it - it's tough. It's been 6 months since H and I separated. We tried MC in the 1st month after he admitted EA (now PA) and we still lived together - then I found his cell phone bill with HER number all over it and I asked him to leave. We stopped MC and I struggled through the holiday season in a fog of depression. Dealing with our S3 was excrutiating for me. His A came as a complete and utter shock - totally "out of character". So now it's been 6 months and I feel stronger and stronger every day (some days more than others). The DR saved my sanity, I read it and re-read it. I started doing a 180 and acting as if. Slowly my H started to become less defensive and accusatory (he didn't have much material to work with). A few months ago I suggested we go back to MC for the sake of "co-parenting" and he agreed. The D word has come up from time to time, mostly out of my frustration and hurt - but so far he seems to always back down from that. And we seem to be getting into more issues related to our R instead of co-parenting. Yet, he continues his A and seems to think - like I do - it will take a miracle for our M to survive. He's 27 (I'm 38) but I think he's in a early MLC. Classic identity crisis. He's so confused and acts like a completely different person. Well, I kept my wedding ring on for almost the full 6 months until I felt ready to GAL. It doesn't mean I'm done, but I've started to value myself more and am learning to not take responsibility for his actions. And, to accept - for today - that this is reality. I take care of my S3 and make sure I don't undermine his R w/ H. The amount of patience this requires is staggering, but somehow it comes. Keep Hanging In!