Hanging on, I am sorry you are here. But...it is a great place to be when faced with the sitch you are in. There are alot of very wise people on these boards that can offer alot of advice and encouragement.
Find grasshoppers thread(s), he is a young man with a young wife and small children too. He is one of the best DB'ers here.
Finish reading DR which I personally think is better than DB. Get a highlighter out and read it again. Understand that you cannot CONTROL your wife - so let her do what she needs to do. DO NOT snoop, everyone here will tell you that it will just kill you and once you find the information you can't do anything about it but stew in your own juices, so don't do it. I know it doesn't seem fair, but you are the one that needs to change, for the better, and work on the relationship even if you don't think she cares or is noticing (she will definitely notice, she just won't say anything about it) Do not have any R talks, she will feel pressured and trapped and want to run faster and farther. Don't believe everything she says and only 1/2 of what she does.
Anyway, just a few pointers. If I or anyone else can think of more we will be back. Hang in there!
