It is so wonderful to hear that many of the people who were posting when I first came to this site (a year ago almost to the day!) have reconciled with their spouses. I too have my H back at home with me. I ignored all teh signs that there was another woman I knew in my heart but my head would not allow me to let it be real. I found out on a Saturday night one week after our 18th anniversary and valentines day this year. I called her husband and we confronted the two of them and the next day my H was home crying and asking how we were going to go on from this. I didn't have an answer just told him we would have to take it one day at a time. I showed him unconditional love and I have never thrown what he did in his face since then. I did learn too many things about what they did and where they went though and am still having problems getting those pictures out of my head. Don't ask for information and don't let them give you any specifics it only makes your pain that much greater. I have forgiven him and so has my 7 yr old daughter my son has yet to forgive him and I don't know if he ever will. (they have other issues though) I wish I could get the memories of this woman out of my head she means nothing to me but she talked him into leaving me when he was most vulnerable and she never planned on leaving her husband. My H would lie to her and tell her that we were not being intimate and he had no feelings for me but he would tell another friend of his how much he wished It was me he was with and not her. If I had not called her husband and we had not confronted them he would never had come home when he did. He truly believed that she was going to leave her H and they were going to be together. Then he saw me and her husband standing on the side walk together and the truth came out. she was lying to him the whole time. I know it takes two but this mlc thing makes a person so vulnerable. I blame her for him leaving but, I still have a hard time with the fact that he left me for her and how he says that he loved her it is so painful. He says he loves me he records songs off the radio and buys CDs that say how stupid he was etc. My problem is when we are alone together talking or making love it all comes back to me and I can't get the pictures of that day out of my head. He kissed her in front of me and told me and her H that he loved her. He also told me about a few things and so did his friends. any body know how to get rid of these memories???? I feel like I am going to ramble if I don't stop now. Is any one else having this problem?? any books to read tapes to listen to ?????
