Hi David; my divorce becomes final in one month. I like how you itemized everything that happened. That's how it all plays out in my mind too, this chronology of events that were so jarring, so out of my control. The day he told me he was leaving. The day he left. Etc, Etc.
I hope you don't think your destined to a life of loneliness. Because you sound like a good person. And life is too short to wear other people's problems. Deep breath, head held high, and forge ahead, my friend. I plan to get through my Divorce date with a little party, either at my house, or out with the girls. Not a party to kiss off my WAH, because I want to keep healthy lines of communication open, but a party to celebrate my new beginning of creating a happy life. One of the first things I did was despite the debt my WAH left me with, I started putting $400/month into a savings account and am taking my sons to Mexico this December with a friend and her son.
When's the last time you went on a holiday with the kids? About your girl in grade nine struggling with marks, I found a drastic difference in marks for my 18 year old twin sons between elementary and high school, there's just so much going on in their development. Maybe I'm too lax on these matters, but I figure, in 10 years time, they'll not be in high school anymore, they'll have figured it out, and will be making plans for their future. You're a good dad, be proud. And I agree, you'll be more than alright!
