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she started harping again about how she didn't FEEL cherished/loved/etc... I gently told her that's why I found 5 Love Lang.s so revealing... That I DID try to show her, that SHE wasn't talking in a way that I fully comprehended... That two years ago, a year and a half ago...had she sat me down and said "I'm at my wits end, I'm really unhappy, I'm thinking about leaving because......________"



And that's when I invalidated her feelings by telling her why she shouldn't feel that way and how we could have "fixed" it. But, of course, after D, you can explain what you feel the cause of problems was. You deserve your chance to speak out.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt