Check your credit report right away, get her off anything your got, and get off her CC's. They will use credit to make their escape.
Next give all the room she needs, pretend she is gone, and make the kids your prioity.
Alien speak says move on, she is lying, but will need lots of space for a good while, months.
Maybe you need to catch up on my sitch!!! We're DONE. Completely. Last year I pulled a Credit report... We both took each other off our individ. CC as authorized users (and got the cards back!) Actually the $$$ aspect of our Div. was very civil. She's just got her head up her A$$ regarding emotions/dealing w/ issues/etc. Just Sunday (2days post Div.) we were talking on the phone about the kids... and somehow the conv. got around to things that happened between us and she started harping again about how she didn't FEEL cherished/loved/etc... I gently told her that's why I found 5 Love Lang.s so revealing... That I DID try to show her, that SHE wasn't talking in a way that I fully comprehended... That two years ago, a year and a half ago...had she sat me down and said "I'm at my wits end, I'm really unhappy, I'm thinking about leaving because......________" MAYBE that would have opened a real dialogue instead of the several months of BS we spent going to the shrink and she talked about all the little nitpicky things that pissed her off... but ignored the BIG one! W/E.
I'm going to keep on DBing by being nice, pleasant, accomodating when it comes to the kids and general stuff. We don't argue about anything. And I think she's finally realized that VB (OM) isn't going to be coming around AT ALL. PERIOD. Night!
