You do know that I was trying to make you smile, right?
I know that this must have been a sad and draining day for you, and I really am sorry. I still have my day in court to look forward to. No matter how you slice it, it's such a waste!
How did you come up with a settlement this quickly. Had you seen a mediator?
Take care.................
Bethie
Yeah, I finally figured that out! (see my email to you!)
We did our own Property Settlement Agreement. Last year when she was telling me she wanted to "be on her own for a while and sort out her emotions and think and maybe see where things went w/ VB...(virginboy)) I had a paper copy of a boilerplate agreement. Typed it all up and we sat down one day in bed (!) and agreed on everything in an hour. Looking back I see now she just wanted to bolt. She could have taken me to the mat on some $$$ issues but didn't and since the kids welfare was our first priority... that made things easy. NO alimoney, she pays minimal child support as I told her that if she doesn't pay something the courts aren't going to like that. Of course she squealed and tried to say that she shouldn't have to since she didn't hit me for half of my [401k] (not really but like one..
Can you say CHA CHING... Of course it wouldn't have been pretty if I'd made a stink about the OM. Last year I was DBing and didn't even know it! I didn't file, I didn't blast her. I DID chew out the OM which actually did some good... for my mental well being and it got him started on the path to dump her!
The bummer was this still cost me over $3500... First L was a jerk and dropped me b/c I didn't want to refi the house to get her off the deed. It would have put me in a tight $$ sitch. And her L screwed things up every step of the way costing more $$$ I can't even imagine what the cost would have been if we had litigated anything at all!!! She just wanted out. And last year when she was all glommed up w/ VB she was like the typical alien. You'd have thought she was on drugs.
She totally blew off her friend that happened to be in court today... I talked to that gal later and she said she felt like she couldn't breathe!
So, the only tie up for us was she had to wait a year, file, me respond, get a court date and that's that.
I thought it would be a great idea to get smashed tonight, but I had to take S11 to a friends and D15 and her gf to a concert and now have to go pick all three up. So much for getting trashed. Not my style anyway!
Oh well, tomorrow is another day Scarlett.
Thanks.
