Wow Karen congratulations on your success. Your story and mine are very similar. I guess a lot of ours are. I came to this board a year ago last June just before you with the same heartbroken devastation we have all experienced. Jenny Baker,GG, and others held my hand and showed me that I could make the difference in whether my marriage survived. It was just after my wedding anniversary too. So I am only two months ahead of you.
Sounds like you are a real expert at DBing. I still find it hard to bite my tounge sometimes but you are right that it does no good to remind our H's of what they did.
We too have found happiness and I believe him when he says it will never happen again. Our 9 month old grandson is the light of our lives these days. Thanks to everyone on this board my H and I have an intact family that will be healthy and tight knit for the rest of our lives. We are able to show our children and grandchildren that good marriages are possible.
So much is gained for not only ourselves but all of those that we love when we are able to demostrate what marriage is all about. Commitment, loyalty, and unconditional love are possible. I know now that I am better equiped to teach my child and grandchildren how to have happy lives and marriages. We have learned what is truly important in life.
