Tonight my W and I had first OR talk in a couple months. First since I got serious about DBing. It was kind of good in that she could say alot of stuff and I didn't react negatively to any of it. Just listened and spoke quietly.
Basically what I expected: -doesn't "think she loves me" -doesn't want to be married -doesn't know what she wants but leaning toward seperation
She was surprised when I knew quite a bit about the divorce laws in our state and i told her that I thought there was a lot of options between being unhappily married and divoriced. That seemed to catch her attention.
Anyway, I'm posting this here instead of newcomers cause I think if W and I can talk about this stuff with no arguing/fighting/crying or reactivity and end the day doing some laundry together and a warm hug, that maybe we are piecing it together.
I'd welcome any and all feedback, comments or advice. I think she was very surprised that I didn't flip out and argue--funny what a couple months of reading several hours a day on this BB does to you.
