I guess I need to think about moving to this board. You have a lot of experience to share. I am praying for you in your stand. I agree the 3rd party should be gone. My H and I had agreed to this, but I'm not sure she is really gone.
Do they all think we 'betrayed' are the real problems, and that they are completely justified in their 'search and rescue' of those out looking?
I was encouraged that your W asked for some of the things you had been reading, etc.
As for whether or not you belong, I would think so. It sounds like there are 'pieces' shuffling around trying to find their fit.