Ssbunny: I noticed that no one has replied to your thread. While I can’t speak for others, it seemed to me that you were just kind of venting and not really seeking help on any specific questions. If that is the case, then I hope getting it out helped. Though, if you would like any specific feedback, it might help to clearly identify your questions.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates