Hi Ladies, Thanks for checkin in with me. Carey, I'm glad that your H is making progress with the counselor. And that now you are starting to go. It sounds like you are going to have to take it slow. (I'll skip on over and read your post about counseling) Aren't we seeing you next week or week after next? I better get on that. That is you isn't it. I've been so out of it since I've been back.
Step: I have been quick on the trigger with anxiety this past year. It takes so little to get me feeling anxious. So your sentence to run not walk to nearest SBT had me feeling very anxious cause I had said in my earlier post that my H trusts the counselor he is going to already and I do too so far. So we had already made the decision to see this one. So I wasn't sure whether you were telling me not to go to our counselor and find a new one or just encouraging me with my plan to see this one.
Step. Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts you are in mine too. I'll pray for you and all here. I hope your H will go to counseling. If you get a good one they can really help. If you get a bad one then you can kiss your marriage goodbye. The one you mentioned here sounds worth a try especially great cause he is going to Michele's workshop.
Well tonight I was faced with a decision to go with H and S to a traditional friday family outing and then do my "I have plans" routine afterwords(cause Friday is my night, H had already taken Sat. night (and every other night also ). I was gonna post for coaching from you all but I have no time right now. So I thought,why should I cut into my time out by myself when he doesn't do the same. Maybe he'll miss me. (yeah right ) I've gone back and forth on this question. But right now he is talking to me so nicely. Nothing in particular just his tone is warm as opposed to cold and accusatory like it's been mostly for the past year or more. So I was thinking that It might make a difference if I make myself as unavailable as possible. Who in the He!! knows? I have no Idea what is going on and you all know how crazy this can make you (Step )So far I have not asked. I need to rethink this though. H is deep into his work and never will talk about anything when he works. So I just don't know. This change in him has coincided with this new job. Perhaps he's feeling better about himself? Or maybe he just cuts out early every day and stops over at OW's on the way home. I wouldn't even know about it. This could drive me crazy and as the title and my first post says. Life with crazy H and OW and who in the He!! knows wether I'm piecing or getting ready for the Big D. Off the top of my head I don't think he's getting ready for the big D cause in all this time (has it been 3 years?) He has not said he wanted one. And when I kicked him out he wouldn't go (granted he had nowhere to go, (though he could've gone to OW's I think)and he had no money so it would've been stupid for him to leave. Why leave when you can have your cake and eat it too? I think He's still in avoidence. I just have to sit tight and keep detaching. Even though he's talking to me in that voice that always gets me. And He let me buy a really nice,REALLY NICE thing that I needed. He had been insisting that I could buy a piece of sh!! or borrow from other people. something totally unrealistic and insulting.
). I was gonna post for coaching from you all but I have no time right now. So I thought,why should I cut into my time out by myself when he doesn't do the same. Maybe he'll miss me. (yeah right 
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