Or maybe it is not that she grew up learning to NOT be wanted but the fear of abadonment that keeps her from trusting when she is wanted. Cobra I do have good intentions that is why I posted on your thread. Maybe not to the full extent of your wife but I can very much relate to her personality and the way she was raised. So was trying to provide some insite to how she could be possibly feeling.
I don't think I have naive look on love. I think every woman wants to be loved. It is a great feeling to be loved. You feel so different about a person when you are in love. You want to be there for that person. You want to be a better person for that person. There is a sense of comfort and security just to be in that persons arms. There is a definite feeling when you are in love. I don't feel I chose to be in love with my husband. It happened even though I fought it at first.
What beefs does she have with your family? Does she feel threatened by them in some way? I am glad to hear you do want you guys to come together and her be around your family someday.
I guess I would feel more embarassed if my husband was divulging our personal problems to his family and therefore turned them against me. I thought that was what may have happened in your situation. I am just a very private person in that way.
I think we all learn to love from the example we set in our children. I worry about what FOO issues they will have by seeing two parents clearly not in love and fighting all the time. How will they ever learn how to love?
